Tuesday, 2 April 2013

B is for Boyfriends

As you may or may not be aware, me and Hannah are now both single.

The thing I always find so strange about being single, is that people seem to be in constant pursuit of trying to change that, when sometimes, being on your own for a while is the best thing to do. Being single allows you to be selfish, not in a horrible way, but you make decisions based on you, without having to factor in another person, and so you never end up resenting someone for not allowing you to reach your full potential.

Ofcourse, having a boyfriend is absolutely lovely too. It means that you always have someone to do things with when you're bored or if you really want to go somewhere and can't think of anyone else to ask. It's also someone that you can completely open yourself up to and not have to worry about what they're going to think.


I suppose it's only human nature to want to find someone to spend the rest of your life with, but I'm only seventeen and have a whole lot of life left yet. 


I hope I don't come across as bitter because I really don't hate men - if anything I'm something of a romantic.  I don't go for the soppy over-the-top stuff like those huge cards they sell in Clintons with love hearts plastered all over them, but I like simple things, things that show just how well you know each other. If someone knows me really well, they know that I won't want a big bar of chocolate when I'm upset, but I really want some Jelly Tots, or they'll know to buy me Company magazine rather than OK! and I hope that I would pick up these little quirks about the other person too.

All in all, I don't think it matters what your relationship status is: single, in a relationship or some complicated situation somewhere in the middle, as long as you're happy and no one else is getting hurt. That's all anyone can ask for, really.


  1. Married for the last 30 years not bad for a six moth courtship. Just enjoy yourself you will meet someone nice.

    1. Wow! Congratulations!
      That's the plan, you never find it if you're looking for it :) xx

  2. Being with someone is not nearly as important as knowing and being with yourself. You need to be comfortable with yourself before making a serious connection with someone else.

    I think. Jeesh! Give me a few hour online and all of a sudden I become Advice Girl!!

    What you ended with is good. Be happy and do no harm.

    1. That sounds like great advice to me!
      Well who am I to advise anyone? I'm seventeen and have only ever had one boyfriend!
      Thankyou for reading & commenting!

  3. You definitely have your life ahead of you. You don't need to worry about settling down w/ anyone yet. I got married at 24 and I see now I was too young.

    1. I'm not letting it get me down at all :)
      Really? I would have thought that 24 was a great age to get married! xx

  4. I totally agree with this, I have a friend who came out of a 3 year relationship, jumped literally straight into another, that ended in two months and now she's desperately in search for another relationship, she's only 18 so we can't get our heads around it!

    I think it's really important to feel secure and happy if you are single, and it's good that you are :)

    Great post :)


    1. That is exactly the kind of person I was referring to in the post, being single does not mean that there is anything wrong with you but I think sometimes that is hard for some people to understand, especially if a lot of their friends are in relationships, I'm lucky because half of my friends are single so I'm not surrounded by couples all the time!
      Thankyou for reading and commenting! xx